As a licensed childcare provider for nine years, I can tell you first hand that the number one influence in a child's life is the child's parents. The behavior problems I have come to me that way. How would you behave if you were a small child and knew you were at childcare so your mom didn't have to mess with you? Remember, any attention, even negative attention, is still attention to a child.
Some parents expect childcare and schools to raise their children while they chase careers and cars. Then there is the flip side. The children who are here because the state pays their tuition to encourage the parents to get a job and take care of their families themselves. I have three children like that right now.
Everyday they come to daycare. Every day mom stays at home, goes running around with her friends, or heaven only knows what(I do because the woman is nuts enough to tell me). She doesn't look for work, hasn't for two years. She's not an exception to the rule. I deal with it all the time. People have children and then don't want to be responsible for them so I am a state paid surrogate parent to children who are still influenced more strongly by their home life than any effort I make to try to be a positive influence on their futures.
Yes, there is bad daycare. But I want the world to wake up and realize there are two sides to every story. I want people to realize that most of us do our very best for children who come from bad situations. Just because someone is a parent does not mean they are a saint and daycare is evil. I see plenty of parents who's children are better off with someone else during the day. Are these the children that researchers are blaming childcare for their behavioral problems?
I have seven children in my daycare right now. Of those seven, four of them have parents who bring them to me on the taxpayers' dime and go home, go to the movies, go tan, or worse...........get high.
Never ceases to amaze me when a parent brings their kids to me while they are on vacation because they just can't get anything done with their kids around. I've had affluent parents go boating for the day, to the beach, etc and bring their kids to daycare. I've had parents who just can't go to the store or do the laundry and handle their children. I kid you not. Lets start putting some of this blame back where it belongs. I give them guidance and structure but am the bad guy in the children's eyes because there are no rules or guidance at home.
I can't save every child that comes through my door, but I try. And as a mom, my kids were never, ever an inconvenience like a lot of the people I deal with. I can do my laundry with my kids around. I can buy groceries. And I spend a lot of time in tears of hurt and frustration at the situations these children are in, the selfishness of some parents, and my inability to make things better.
Some parents expect childcare and schools to raise their children while they chase careers and cars. Then there is the flip side. The children who are here because the state pays their tuition to encourage the parents to get a job and take care of their families themselves. I have three children like that right now.
Everyday they come to daycare. Every day mom stays at home, goes running around with her friends, or heaven only knows what(I do because the woman is nuts enough to tell me). She doesn't look for work, hasn't for two years. She's not an exception to the rule. I deal with it all the time. People have children and then don't want to be responsible for them so I am a state paid surrogate parent to children who are still influenced more strongly by their home life than any effort I make to try to be a positive influence on their futures.
Yes, there is bad daycare. But I want the world to wake up and realize there are two sides to every story. I want people to realize that most of us do our very best for children who come from bad situations. Just because someone is a parent does not mean they are a saint and daycare is evil. I see plenty of parents who's children are better off with someone else during the day. Are these the children that researchers are blaming childcare for their behavioral problems?
I have seven children in my daycare right now. Of those seven, four of them have parents who bring them to me on the taxpayers' dime and go home, go to the movies, go tan, or worse...........get high.
Never ceases to amaze me when a parent brings their kids to me while they are on vacation because they just can't get anything done with their kids around. I've had affluent parents go boating for the day, to the beach, etc and bring their kids to daycare. I've had parents who just can't go to the store or do the laundry and handle their children. I kid you not. Lets start putting some of this blame back where it belongs. I give them guidance and structure but am the bad guy in the children's eyes because there are no rules or guidance at home.
I can't save every child that comes through my door, but I try. And as a mom, my kids were never, ever an inconvenience like a lot of the people I deal with. I can do my laundry with my kids around. I can buy groceries. And I spend a lot of time in tears of hurt and frustration at the situations these children are in, the selfishness of some parents, and my inability to make things better.